This morning I was wondering about what to write for my regular Monday post. I had no life updates to give, have been incessantly talking beauty for the last week and have reviewed the books I read too. Suman Kher solved that problem for me when she shared this tweet..
— Suman Kher (@Suman_Kher) September 14, 2015
It has started a debate that is still going on in our twitter group. My first reaction after reading this tweet was
— LifestyleProBlog (@LifstyleProBlog) September 14, 2015
But then, I read a little more. I read the story on Mashable and they have an image of the mail photo that started it all. Even the mail that the lady sent is in there.
Reading the lawyer’s mail, this is what I gather –
- Charlotte Proudman and Alex Carter-Silk do not know each other
- Alex is aware that this could seem politically incorrect and he compliments her anyway
- He then states an intention to know her skills and a possible collaboration
Now I do not know the context in detail but the Mashable story makes it clear that Charlotte reached out to him to connect. This seems to be his first response. In my view, he isn’t hinting anything inappropriate. He is saying it is a stunning picture. What is wrong about being told that? He is talking about working together. Why did Charlotte flare up so much? Because he was a stranger? Because he is 57? Or because he is a man? I agree there is no dearth of creepy men out there but are we women not going a little too overboard by thinking all men are the same? When men say women are bad drivers, we are quick to shout and vent about it. Yet, one man misbehaves and all men are branded creeps. Yes, men admire women, they ogle. It is how they are wired. There is a fine line here that takes this behaviour into derogatory. That needs to be condemned. Looking at every man you come across with the same suspicion is not right. If you flare up when men generalise things and then label all men as sexists and misogynist, then what does that make you? A hypocrite. Am trying hard to not judge Charlotte here but I can not help think that she over reacted. She could have graciously accepted a complement and carried on her professional engagement. If the lawyer made any advances on her then, if he put her looks above her skills after getting to know her, then it would be a problem. Then such outrage would have been justified and even necessary.
I have felt in the past that we women take this women’s lib a little too seriously. We go overboard and men are sometimes victimised. As human beings, we need to be a little more tolerant. We need to give people a chance. Why are we so cynical that we cannot take simple compliments – even if they are from unknown people? Must we always mistrust their intentions?
What do you guys think about this? Do share your thoughts!
Day 13 – September Blogging Challenge