After the burst of activity at the start of this year, I lapsed into non blogging again… well, big reasons too… life changing, not happy ones… having lived in a nuclear family far away from your entire extended family emotionally distances you from them… things such as marriages, births and deaths do not affect you the same way they would have had you been a part of their everyday life. And in the age when we grew up, telephones, emails, social networking sites were not readily available… You do tend to live a sort of solipsistic life… the self however extends to your immediate family too… But having said that, nothing prepares you for the loss of a family member, an immediate family member… I lost my mother in law and our family is still coming to grips with it…
My eyes are wet even as I write this, in memory of the lady who said I am not your mother in law, I am your mumma… Whenever I heard anyone say we dont get along well with the MIL, I would cross my fingers and knock on wood… for my ‘mumma’ had nothing but love to give… she was too young to go and put up a fight till the last ounce of energy… I never got to tell her how much I appreciated her, how much I had enjoyed bonding with her, how much I wanted to give back what I got and didn’t get to do it…
All I can do now is pray that she be at peace wherever she is and her hand remains on top of our heads like it was…